What's a Type?
Apparently we all have a 'type'.
I find it difficult to describe, but I have written a list of things which turn me on or off. Most things got on the list because I either admire people who have these qualities or detest people who don't have these qualities. Some reflect my interests. Other things are just plain fetish.
I like a man who:
1) is Intelligent - I don't see academia as the best measure of intelligence. I don’t care what qualifications or formal education they have. But they do have to come across as smart for me to find them sexy.
2) enjoys their food and is not a fussy eater
3) a great cook
3) is not too vain or clean cut.
4) has a great sense of humour
5) enjoys comedy – especially British comedy
5) has good friends of both gender
6) has ginger hair
7) is taller than me (I'm 5"4ish)
8) enjoys big holidays
9) enjoys action/outdoorsy stuff
10) is loyal to his partner/friends/family
11) is not very sexist (we are all a little bit)
12) is polite and friendly to waiting staff and sales people
13) is low on the fundamental attribution error
14) is relaxed around kids in hoodies (colloquially and often unfairly also known as 'chavs')
15) is open towards other cultures and generally relativist but has some solid values of their own
16) is not religious
17) is not a homophobe and has fairly relaxed views on gender
18) is a doer - I like a guy who organises stuff and is always up for new experiences.
19) works for their own keep
20) is hardworking and ambitious but not struggling with their work-life balance
21) has a Catholic background but is not actually Catholic! Not necessary but I like having this in common with people
22) is not snobby
23) has well thought out opinions on important things such as political/social issues and is able to hold his ground in an argument
24) has lots of hobbies and takes an interest in the world
25) follows the news
26) does not argue about money
27) plays sport or exercises
28) gets excited about niche topics
29) is domesticated
30) likes nature and is knowledgeable about the natural world
31) is down to earth
32) is happy to clown around sometimes
33) gets along with my friends
34) is good to his family - family oriented
35) is an ugly musician
36) has a good appetite
37) has a positive attitude to life and society
38) is about 28 years old. 23-33 is probably the suitable range
39) respects animals - not in a weird way, just has an appreciation for them
40) questions me
41) is not passive and can make decisions
42) is witty in conversation
43) is reliable in his word
44) is honest
45) is decisive
46) is dynamic
47) is not afraid to say what he wants
48) is reflective
49) doesn't hate mainstream society
50) is not a social conformist. Has their own style and opinion
51) is kind and doesn't slag people off
52) is not vindictive
53) has a Scottish accent
54) tells good dirty jokes
55) is not a power tripper
56) is relatively thick skinned - not too sensitive
57) loves to try the finer things in life and will splash cash regularly but knows that there are more important things in life
58) is not too babied by his parents
59) is not too green. knows how to survive in the city
60) is generous and enjoys treating others
61) is ambitious in an individualistic way rather than a pushy social climber
62) works in IT - why i don't know
63) is mysterious and quirky
64) is Interested in other cultures including mine
65) is inventive and thoughtful
66) lets themselves be treated by others
67) knows what they like romantically and sexually
68) knows what they want from a relationship.
69) does not have conservative, old fashioned family values and for example does not judge others for raising children out of wedlock
70) enjoys a good drink.
71) does not smoke
72) accepts that other people experiment with illegal drugs and does not judge them badly for it but has no drug habit of their own. i.e. alcohol is their drug
73) Makes things happen. Not a bailer
74) not looking to settle down but not anti-relationships either,
75) Listens and shows that they listen through thoughtful gestures
76) Not too much of a prissy boy although they can have some metrosexual behaviours
77) is not too shallow
78) does not hold shallow views about people because of their social, economic background or family status
79) is easy going not too intense
80) is not too much of a city dweller. Can survive in the sticks
81) flirts a lot
82) is competitive and loves themselves on one level, but self depreciating and makes jokes at their own expense on another
83) is great fun to hang out with
84) laughs a lot
77) is not too shallow
78) does not hold shallow views about people because of their social, economic background or family status
79) is easy going not too intense
80) is not too much of a city dweller. Can survive in the sticks
81) flirts a lot
82) is competitive and loves themselves on one level, but self depreciating and makes jokes at their own expense on another
83) is great fun to hang out with
84) laughs a lot
People tell me that sticking to a type is limiting. They say that you should be open-minded. As part of the blind date exercise I will try to ignore having my 'type'. I am going to go with the flow with whoever my friends set me up with. Say yes to all dates and see what happens!
You follow the blind date marathon by clicking the links below:
The Blind Date Email:
My Relationship History: The Relationship Hopper, Sex Addict, and Weapon of Masturbation
Date 1: A – Full frontal nudity
Date 2: Seb – A man in tights
Date 3: Alan - the softy
Date 4: Christian – Hot Trinidadian
Date 5: Darren – Too into his ex
Date 6: Charles – Trainwreck part I
Date 6.5 Charles – part II
Wait a minute Kelyn, What are you doing?
Date 7: Nick the Greek
Date 8: Brett – Poptart
Date 9: Mark – Bowling and Politics
Date 10: Martin – FAIL
Martin’s Perspective
Date 11: Daniel – DILF
Date 12: Crow – Chronic Bail
Date 13: Jubilee –French Accent
Date 14: Dan – A Black man in Waitrose?
Date 15: James – Relationships are like Laptops
Date 16: Cooper – The Booty Call
Date 17: Brendan – When a man Out-dresses You
Date18: Sam – The Reluctant Dragon
Date 19: Ami – My Lesbian One Night Stand
Date 20: Devontay – If I were a few years younger...
The Blind Date Email:
My Relationship History: The Relationship Hopper, Sex Addict, and Weapon of Masturbation
Date 1: A – Full frontal nudity
Date 2: Seb – A man in tights
Date 3: Alan - the softy
Date 4: Christian – Hot Trinidadian
Date 5: Darren – Too into his ex
Date 6: Charles – Trainwreck part I
Date 6.5 Charles – part II
Wait a minute Kelyn, What are you doing?
Date 7: Nick the Greek
Date 8: Brett – Poptart
Date 9: Mark – Bowling and Politics
Date 10: Martin – FAIL
Martin’s Perspective
Date 11: Daniel – DILF
Date 12: Crow – Chronic Bail
Date 13: Jubilee –French Accent
Date 14: Dan – A Black man in Waitrose?
Date 15: James – Relationships are like Laptops
Date 16: Cooper – The Booty Call
Date 17: Brendan – When a man Out-dresses You
Date18: Sam – The Reluctant Dragon
Date 19: Ami – My Lesbian One Night Stand
Date 20: Devontay – If I were a few years younger...
